Can you see what I see

I seem to remember a song that went, ‘can you see what I see?’ Well the obvious answer, especially at the moment, is no. Unless you can see a red and blue blanket at the bottom of your bed, with a red Gap jumper hanging over the blue blanket and a bookcase behind. Then a window on your left with a garden outside and the sun just breaking through and a wheelchair to your right with an empty cereal bowl. If not then you definitely can’t see what I can see.

For me, apart from my room change, which has changed my view. I am still limited to a view within our house. For those reading this, you may be experiencing a shrinking world due to the lockdown. Instead of the larger vistas you are used to, you now have the limitations of four walls and perhaps a view outside. Yes, you may be able to go out and shop or exercise. But that is much more limited than before.

But I am not seeking to make you feel bad. I want to point out something I have learnt in my experience of a limited viewpoint. Place and surroundings do not limit our perspective or understanding. Where we are physically does not have to affect where we are emotionally, spiritually or mentally. Limitations really are all in the mind.

I have written before about journeying in my imagination. That is one part of what I would say. Our imagination takes us wherever we want to go. But it is more than imagination that frees us. Think about this. Everything we experience and feel is processed by our brain. Ultimately it is our brain that is the means by which we think, feel and experience the world. Therefore, even without the direct input of external things we can still experience the world. Because our brain can remember places it has been, sounds, smells and touch. Our brain can re create whole experiences, it is more than imagination. I realise that the younger you are and the less you have experienced, the less you can draw on. But there is always something.

If you are stuck in a house, feeling frustrated and alone. Sit and close your eyes. Remember a time of enjoyment and fun. Maybe you are on a beach, or in a forest, or up a mountain. For each of us it will be different. Remember the sounds, the smell, the feeling, the warmth or cold, re live that moment. The more times you try this the easier it becomes.

I know that for some there will be distractions, children, partners, outside noises. But there will be moments you can do this. I also know first hand that tiredness and pain get in the way of concentration. But persevere, it is worth it.

Can you see what I see? No, but what you see will bring you joy and peace and an oasis in the midst of isolation.

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Author: Mike Nevin

I decided to write about the funny side of being cared for. I am a full time wheelchair user with daily carers. It's my experiences with my carers that inspired this blog.

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