They think it’s all over

Most people have heard the quote: ‘They think it’s all over, it is now.’ From a football match commentary a few years ago.

When you are suffering pain, mental or physical, long term illness, limitations or any long-term difficulties, you just want it to be over. Each morning you wake there is that realisation that you have another day of difficulty ahead. Some mornings that feeling can be so tangible it is like a physical weight on top of you, crushing you. Have you felt that? Are you there now?

The sense of ‘wishing it was all over’ can be so strong at times like that. It’s hard to keep going. You grasp around for something solid and find nothing. The feeling is like being in a stormy sea at night, everywhere around you there nothing to hold onto.

If that is where you are now:

  • Don’t give up.
  • Keep on reaching out.
  • There is hope out there in the dark.

I have been in that place a number of times over the years. I know what it is like and I know that it feels hopeless and unceasing. I realise that for me I have my faith in God. But God is there for anyone, not just those with faith, you too can call on him. We are all different, what we cling to will be different. The important thing is to remember there is hope however much you can’t see it. Just keep reaching out.

If you are struggling to get through. If you are fighting to survive day by day and wishing it were all over. My encouragement to you is this:

Even in the darkest night, the sun will come in the morning.

I also have a thought for those who are not struggling at the moment. Do you have friends or family going through illness or hardship? Be aware they may be floundering in the dark, reaching out. Be a place of comfort and safety for them. Remember not all illnesses are visible and not everyone makes it obvious when they are struggling. The fact someone smiles does not mean they are OK. They may just be very good at hiding their pain. I think one of the least helpful things you can say to someone who is long term ill is: ‘You look really well,’ just because they are smiling and looking positive. When people drown emotionally and spiritually it isn’t always visible.

If you are just wanting it all to end; hang on in there, reach out, there is hope in the darkness. If you are doing OK at the moment, be there for family and friends, be their support.

Please share this blog, it may help others.

Author: Mike Nevin

I decided to write about the funny side of being cared for. I am a full time wheelchair user with daily carers. It's my experiences with my carers that inspired this blog.

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