Home is where the heart is (Update)

We all know the expression, “Home is where the heart is.” It expresses the idea that home is not a building but a place we connect to emotionally. Of course to connect to a place emotionally it has to offer something that touches us. That could be a memory about where we grew up, where our children were born, our first home, where our parents live or something that touches our feelings about our past. But emotions on their own don’t make up the complete human experience. We need physical things, comfort, warmth, convenience, accessibility, and other our practical needs meeting. A home has to fulfil those practical as well as emotional needs. Sorry to state the obvious.

For most people finding a place to live is a big issue, a major life decision and a mammoth task. When you are disabled, especially a wheelchair user, the issues are compounded. A suitable property has to have wider doors and corridors, more space in the rooms. It needs level access and a wet room. Ideally a ceiling hoist or a suitable room to fit one, from the bedroom to the wet room. The kitchen needs to be accessible if you are able to use it at all (I can’t, but other disabled people can). There often needs to be a call system to summon help. Parking, if any needs to be wider and nearby. These are just the more obvious aspects.

Think about your current home, look around you. How wide are your doors? Do you have a downstairs toilet, let alone a bathroom. Does your front door have any ridge or step? Even a 1” step is a bump for a wheelchair. How tight are the angles into your house? Think about your neighbours, friends, families houses. How many have level access, by that I mean no bumps at all. How many have wide doors and corridors? How many have downstairs toilets or showers?

Wheelchair by my bed while I am lowered back into bed by ceiling hoist.

You may think that I am asking irrelevant questions that don’t apply to you. If you are able bodied and fit. Why should you worry? Let me explain. First there is something that happens to us all, we grow old and become less able bodied. Most of us have relatives like that, don’t we want them to be able to visit? Even if you don’t want your relatives to visit, one day that will be you. Second there is accident and illness. All too common. I was 100% fit and well in my early 30’s when illness first struck me down. I have friends who have had serious accidents. Yes, it can happen to you, or a family member or a friend. Don’t you want them to visit. What if it happens to you, will you be able to stay where you are? What houses are there suitable?

Accessible housing is a real issue for everyone, not just those of us in wheelchairs. It will increasingly become an issue with an ageing population. We need to be aware and think about these things.

There is a big problem in this country with availability of accessible properties. There are far more disabled and elderly people than disabled accessible homes being built, see the report from Habinteg:

We need to lobby for improvements in this situation. The Habinteg website has ways to do this

It also tells you a lot more about the problem than I have.

Update the government have responded to the report:


I have written a blog (Bedroom, dining room, lounge, toilet) about our own situation.

Author: Mike Nevin

I decided to write about the funny side of being cared for. I am a full time wheelchair user with daily carers. It's my experiences with my carers that inspired this blog.

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